To change or not to change. . . that's NOT the question

To change or not to change. . . that's NOT the question

But what needs changing, and how to change — that is.

There are not too many people that like change. As humans, we typically hate change. We would rather stay the same than dive into the unknown. What you don't know feels scary. Even if not desirable, you feel safe in doing what is familiar.  You tend to be  more comfortable in environments and relationships that you are used to than in those that require a shift. This is true even if what is familiar is unhealthy or unfulfilling. Learn how to become more honest with yourself about change.

Winning mindset

 Winning mindset

What is it that sets apart the very successful people from the failures?  Is it a set of personality traits? Is it a particular group of habits? An increased appetite for power? A high intelligence score? I'm sure each of these factors can play a part in success. Yet, as many research show,  the fundamental difference between the wildly successful and the merely mediocre is not any inborn characteristic or individual learned behavior but how the person thinks about skills and learning in general.

How to set up a goal setting process that actually works

How to set up a goal setting process that actually works

Yes, this blog is about goal setting again! It's part of my mini-series about change.  But don't freak out! And don't go away!  I’m not repeating the same old stuff you’ve already seen many times the first week of this new year.

Most people think that goal setting is all about thinking what they want to accomplish this year. Then, write it down, and work backwards to create mini goals to make them actionable. Well yes. . . sort of. . . That's part of it. But the problem is that people work at this backwards. That's the last part. So, stay with me and things will become clear. 

Only 8% of people make changes. Are you one of them?

Only 8% of people make changes. Are you one of them?

Let me guess: You want to lose weight in 2018, or just eat healthier. Perhaps you want to spend less money or spend more time with your friends and family. Maybe you want to stop procrastinating and finally start your own business. Whatever it is, Self-improvement, or at least the desire for it, is a shared American hobby.

Estimates say more than 40% of Americans make New Year's resolutions.  But for all the good intentions, only a tiny fraction keep their resolutions. University of Scranton research suggests that just  8% of people achieve their New Year's goals.

You can be included on that 8%. This blogs explains how.

Are you committed to change?

Are you committed to change?

Many people seek me because they want to change. Yet, not all of them are ready to change. Even the words you use when talking about change can have an impact on how ready you are to change and with being successful with change. Your vocabulary impacts your attitudes and actions. When it comes to change, words can make a huge difference. 

Most people are not really committed to change. They commit just to try. . . And that doesn't work!  

Find out what does work!

Do you need to change anything?

Do you need to change anything?

Many times we talk about our desire to change. As the last month of the year progresses, we start taking inventory and thinking about what we need to change in the new year. We go back and forth between wanting to change and dreading the idea of change. You know deep down there are some things you really need to change, but how do you get ready to change? How can you get to that transformation that will signal you have really changed?

Unless your mind is ready to make a focused, no barrels hold, commitment to change, you are not ready. Do you know where you are in the continuum of readiness to change? December is a good month to contemplate the need for change. Keep reading to learn how to get ready.

Why change doesn't work

 Why change doesn't work

We are starting the last month of the year. As the year starts unwinding to it’s end, we tend to become more contemplative of our life and work. We take inventory. We weight opportunities. We think about change. . .

Unfortunately, after many years of doing the same, making new resolutions for the new year, and failing at them, many give up on change and on themselves. If you are like them, you think about change, but have come to HATE change. . . or your failure with change. In today's post learn what works.

Success or failure?

Success or failure?

After reading many research papers about what is the one element that makes the greatest contribution to the success or failure or leaders, there's one that keeps coming up: attitude!

The most important step you can take toward achieving your greatest potential is to learn to monitor your attitude and its impact on your work performance, relationships and everyone around you.

You don’t have a choice over what life throws your way, but you can always choose your attitude, which will influence your response, and ultimately your success.