The mindset that makes the biggest difference between success and failure
What is it that sets apart the very successful people from the failures? Is it a set of personality traits? Is it a particular group of habits? An increased appetite for power? A high intelligence score? I'm sure each of these factors can play a part in success. Yet, as many research show, the fundamental difference between the wildly successful and the merely mediocre is not any inborn characteristic or individual learned behavior but how the person thinks about skills and learning in general.
Do you believe you can really change?
In order to change, you have to be able to learn. It seems some folks think that when it comes to skills and abilities, you get the hand you're dealt, and that's that. You are however smart you are, however hard working, however perseverant, and there's little to nothing you can do to change these fundamental characteristics of your personality and way of being. That's called a fixed mindset. People with a fixed mindset typically say things like "I'm just not that smart" or "Math is not my thing." or "I just have a short fuse."
Other people know differently. The opposite view is called a growth mindset. They believe that with effort and perseverance, you can expand your intellect, broaden your skills, improve your character, and overcome obstacles. They see the key to getting ahead not as inherited talent or skill but good, old-fashioned hard work. People with a growth mindset typically say things like "With a little more time, I'll get it" or "That's OK. I'll give it another try."
Can you guess who ends up more successful?
If you guessed the ones with a growth mindset, you are correct! If you believe you can't, you are right, and if you believe you can, you are also right! High achievers generally have a growth mindset, a fact proven in large part by the research of renowned Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck.
We could go into all the ins and outs of Dweck's research, but the basic takeaway is short and sweet: It's all about your mindset.
"Successful people tend to focus on growth, solving problems, and self-improvement, while unsuccessful people think of their abilities as fixed assets and avoid challenges."
How do you get a growth mindset?
Everyone is born with a growth mindset, an intense drive to learn. Infants stretch their skills daily. Not just ordinary skills, but the most difficult tasks of a lifetime, like learning to walk and talk. They never decide it’s too hard or not worth the effort. Babies don’t worry about making mistakes or humiliating themselves. They walk, they fall, they get up. They just barge forward.
What could put an end to this exuberant learning? The fixed mindset... and it develops over time by what we hear and experience at home and at school. In the fixed mindset it’s not enough just to succeed. It’s not enough just to look smart and talented. You have to be pretty much flawless. And you have to be flawless right away... After all, if you have it you have it, and if you don’t you don’t...
The good news is that you can change your mindset by changing the running account that’s taking place in your head. Your mindset guides the whole interpretation process. The fixed mindset creates an internal monologue that is focused on judging:
- “This means I’m a loser.”
- “This means I’m a better person than they are.”
- “This means I’m a bad leader.”
- “This means my partner is selfish.”
To change to a growth mindset you will continue to monitor what’s going on, but your internal monologue is not about judging yourself and others anymore. Certainly you’re sensitive to positive and negative information, but you’re now attuned to its implications for learning and constructive action. Your monologue now is more like:
- "What can I learn from this?"
- "How can I become a better leader?"
- "How can I help my partner do this better"
Research shows that you can learn to tell yourself a different story, a story in which you have the potential to change. You'll be more successful for it.
You can go back to your natural growth mindset, the one you had from birth. When you re-learn to see failure as a step on the road to eventual achievement, risks are no longer something to avoid. Risk, and occasional failure, will simply be an expected step along the way toward success.
Develop a growth mindset, and you will be successful!
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