Conversations that connect require a safe place

Most workplaces I visit, and couples I work with, acknowledge the need for open communication. Yet, lack of conversations that connect is one of the main problems people tell me they face. What is going on?

In my experience, there is one issue that is often overlooked. If you want to promote and facilitate conversations that connect, you have to build a safe place. What does a safe place for communication looks like?

A safe place is a place where. . .

• People can be vulnerable. You can allow yourself to become vulnerable knowing that others will not exploit this vulnerability, but embrace it. People will help one another to overcome their weaknesses.

• People can talk without being interrupted. You know others will not rudely interrupt, but let you finish your thoughts.

• People listen with kindness. Even if you make mistakes while talking, people will be kind and find ways to help you clarify your message.

• People show respect. They can disagree with your message without attacking you as a person. There is no name calling, screaming, of cursing. Strong emotions can be kept in check.

This week many celebrate St. Valentines day. Guess what. . . connection (with friends, lovers, co-workers, family) happens through conversations. And conversations are possible only if we feel safe. Be the one that takes the first step in creating that safe space.

Remember. . .

You can help create a safe space where conversations that connect are possible. You have to start by being willing to show your own vulnerability. By exemplifying and promoting the attributes that help create a safe space, you will help people feel free to share openly.

P.S.

As a special St. Valentine’s gift, you can ask for a simple infographic on how to host safe conversations.

Do you want to know how to have more effective communication? Do the conversations you facilitate help to connect people? Schedule a strategic complimentary call to find out. Simply click here.